tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274987097756433491.post2849101665158463635..comments2024-03-05T11:26:21.204-06:00Comments on All the World's Our Page: Query Check!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274987097756433491.post-84500009712179504082009-12-08T05:18:14.313-06:002009-12-08T05:18:14.313-06:00Hmm, filing this post away for when I start queryi...Hmm, filing this post away for when I start querying. So very helpful, Jen! Great stuff.Rachel Walshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15406943046329566026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274987097756433491.post-64308435812558023272009-12-05T20:01:22.521-06:002009-12-05T20:01:22.521-06:00Email definitely makes the whole process easier. B...Email definitely makes the whole process easier. But now that I've got 50 rejections under my belt, I'm kinda scared to keep going...Deniz Bevanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17134553551048836979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274987097756433491.post-83847328165769675802009-12-02T11:14:35.179-06:002009-12-02T11:14:35.179-06:00Agents looking to shoot writers down...Of course n...Agents looking to shoot writers down...Of course not! (I hope no one thinks that, cuz it just ain't true (g) :) In my experience, agents often act with a lot more class then what they receive. What I really was pointing to was the fact that their discussions comes down to personal preferences. The whole selection process is a highly personal one, which is okay since the agent/author relationship is also a highly personal one. Erm, that was what I meant. LolKristen Callihanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448274676402616525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274987097756433491.post-85406866635786749352009-12-02T07:59:02.276-06:002009-12-02T07:59:02.276-06:00Kristen,
LOL... man, we DO think alike. (g) That...Kristen,<br /><br />LOL... man, we DO think alike. (g) That said, great points, all. I agree rejection can be very personal to US, not so much to the agent. We're just another MS to come across his/her desk so while it seems very personal to us to be rejected, they aren't looking to shoot US as people or writers down. They simply aren't GRABBED by our writing for whatever reason --bad day, spilled coffee on the pages and now they're unreadable (I personally believe that's what happened with my rejections) and it's blotted out my addy, too. Oh wait...when did this turn to being about me??? bwhahaha.<br /><br />Ooops. (vbg)<br /><br />AND YES YES YES on the personal debate. DO NOT DO IT.<br /><br />JenJennifer Hendrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01239194419535919631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274987097756433491.post-7671831974584901382009-12-01T10:10:50.760-06:002009-12-01T10:10:50.760-06:00As always, awesome post, Jen!
LOL, Rachel is so r...As always, awesome post, Jen!<br /><br />LOL, Rachel is so right; we are starting to think alike with posts, because I was going to do a query related one too. Won't now. I'll just chime in here as suggested. (lol) <br /><br />I think Jen pointed this out clearly; going on the query-go-round is like going to war. You must plan your strategy in advance, know your enemy (lol), and put yourself in a neutral mindset where fear and indecision is not involved. (bg)<br /><br />But the main thing I was going to touch on in this: you will often hear that a rejection is not personal. Well, to me, it is. What that agent is saying is that they personally don’t want your work- for various reasons. But that is kind of the point, isn’t it? Believe me, you want someone who loves your work. Yeah, the agent/author relationship is a business one, but it is unique because it is also highly personal relationship based on trust and mutual understanding. Like in dating, you (and the agent) want to click with someone. You want them to “get” you. So, yes, rejection is personal. It hurts. But it is part of the writing life. Not every one is going to get your stuff. Let yourself feel the rejection, acknowledge the hurt, then move on, and find that special someone who possess the five major points of compatibility…wait, that’s something else. (g)<br /><br />-but please, please listen to what Jen says on the personal debate because she is totally right; you do not want to lower yourself and act unprofessionally by responding in a personal manner to rejection. Not good.Kristen Callihanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448274676402616525noreply@blogger.com